By now you are probably thinking, "Is this all she does? Write blogs?" ha. While your assumptions aren't too far off, I have also begun planning for my next few years abroad. When I say planning, I have now THOUGHT about signing up for my TEFL (Teaching English as a Foreign Language) course. Thinking about
doing something is a good first step right? Lol. Tomorrow. Yep, tomorrow is a good day to start the course.
So a combination of my blogging obsession and the love for my dog, Maggie, results in a blog titled, "14 things we can learn from our animals." (yeah, a bit strange, but don't read on if you aren't interested :) )
Now, I know I've always
loved animals, but this appreciation for them has grown stronger
since spending the last 27 months in Central/South America. Those that have traveled to a less developed area of the world certainly know the difficulties of seeing this. Dogs everywhere, all struggling just to survive. Dogs scavenging through trash bags,
entering restaurants, and sometimes even digging through burning trash. Dogs with their ribs almost penetrating through. Dogs eating human feces. Dogs being mistreated.
As time went on on, it did get a little easier, but I never could quite get used to it. Of course, I was the weird one, giving these "useless, smelly, dirty" animals so much attention. “Jamie, you know
if you hold that animal you will never be able to have children”
, I would be told. I would ignore their disguised looks, and their comments. I didn’t care. I love animals, and I will
treat them with the kindness they deserve, even if it meant dealing with the gossip going around town of how dirty it was that I touched these animals. However, by the end of my service, I
did take notice to some people treating their dogs nicer, and I even saw many
children holding their animals.
So, yeah, bottom line; I love animals, and I believe we have
a lot to learn from them too. So here is a list of what animals, particularly my dog Maggie May, has taught me:
1. Love
unconditionally. You could be gone for a day, or you could be gone for an
hour. Or you could accidentally leave your dog in the backseat of your car for
a few days (I won't mention which friend of my accidentally did this ;) ) It doesn’t matter, they will ALWAYS still be happy to see you. My dog's love for other people has no bounds. She just wants to love, and be loved as often as possible, no questions asked.
2. Don’t focus on the
past or the future. Enjoy the present moment. As stated in the study, “A
Wandering Mind is an Unhappy Mind,” people are happiest when doing activities
that keep the mind focused. Thinking, reminiscing, or planning an activity that
is not within this current moment can undermine happiness.
And of course that can lead us to another lesson learned
from our animals…
3. Be happy, always.
4. Just being present
is enough. I always thought the best kind of a friend is one who you can
sit on a front porch with and not have to say a word.
5. Language goes beyond words – 90% of our
communication is nonverbal. While much of it is through body language, I
believe, too, a lot comes from energies/our emotions. I understood a great deal
of this with my work for over 5 years with children with special needs. It's as if one's lack of ability to verbally communicate is
replaced with a strong sense to read people’s emotions.
While working with these children, I learned it didn’t matter what I said as much as HOW I
said it. When I was frustrated, the students were frustrated. If I was nervous,
so were they. If I was happy and positive, they were too. Simple as that.
Realizing this, my work with special needs
children came easier to me. After I began rewarding their small
successes
through positive
reinforcement, I would see more progress with my students.
When I moved to El Salvador,
I was now that child with special needs. I knew about 40 words in Spanish
before being placed in a community of people where no one spoke my
language.. As mentioned in #4, just the presence of another person is
meaningful. I’m thankful for the patience & positive energy I felt through
Salvadorians, just like I’m sure the children I worked with were appreciative
of my patience and positive energy.
I say some of my best teachers in life have been non-verbal
children with special needs or Salvadorians whose education doesn’t go beyond 4th
grade.
6. It's the simple things –
like going for a walk. My dog will just come up and sit next to me (and
awkwardly stare), until I say the magic word; walk. And then that’s it. She’s
content for the rest of the day. I’ll admit, my walks out back in the woods are
just as exciting for me too. It certainly
doesn’t hurt to exercise and spend more time outside, especially in this
beautiful fall weather. Rides in the car, walks in the park, doing laps around the house for no apparent reason; you name it, this dog finds joy in every little thing.
7. Don’t take life
seriously. – Have fun. Learn to laugh at yourself. Don’t judge yourself or
others. Don’t worry about what others think. Those that do love you will love
you forever, and those that don’t, just don’t matter.
8. Take naps - Even if you don't have time for a nap, take some time for yourself. Meditate. Clear your mind. Focus on your breathing. Just take a brief moment out of the day to relax. To reflect. To have "me" time.
9. Just breathe –
Dogs may pant to regulate their body temperature. For us, breathing might not
make us cooler, but it helps regulate our emotional temperature. In, out.
Focusing on our breathing helps us concentrate more on the present moment, and
it’s also a great stress reducer.
10. Don’t be afraid. Be
curious. Try new things. Be adventurous. Life begins when you leave your
comfort zone.
11. Forgive – Dogs
don’t hold grudges. As humans, we shouldn't either; we are all intelligent enough to know people make
mistakes. Learn something from you or the others mistake and move forward.
12. Treat strangers
with kindness too. Don’t be afraid to look people in the eye, or maybe even
say “hello” once in awhile when you pass someone on the street. It is
impossible to take Maggie on a walk in town where she doesn’t feel like
she has to greet EVERYONE. At least, the people love it (most of them.)
13. Spend as much time as
you can with your loved ones (talk to each other, and not just via text.) No matter where Maggie is in the house, if she
hears my family talking, she always comes in the room to be part of the
conversation. She’ll come in the room, sit on one of our laps, and listen until
the conversation eventually fades.
14. Play – Whatever
this means to YOU. Go outside, hike, bike, climb, practice yoga, laugh, have
coffee with a friend, or maybe play fetch with your dog. Whatever it may be,
don’t forget to take some time out of your day to do something that makes you
happy and is fun.
It's just that simple; eat, love and be happy. I think our dogs know what is important in life :)